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Friends With Benefit (Lara)

This is a guest post from Lara of mahogany, a site dedicated everything female. Lara is a young twisted writer with kinky dirty thoughts. When she is not writing, reading and having dirty thoughts she gets her satisfaction by hitting up a blunt, and listening to music.

And because he was her friend as well as her lover, they touched each other in physical and emotional places, he was her only lover. No one would touch her in places she never knew existed neither would she ever succumb to the desires of other men, except one whom she could freely give all her erotic desires to.

And he loved her. Ooh, her laughter reminiscent with friendship, inkling teases with her butt, or a grope of touch in awkward private places. Her soul belonged to him, a flicker of an innocent lash, ready to do his will. Yes, she bowed, when he towered words upon her. Nasty words one would shudder at, yet she bowed and although she was ready to be his slave, she owned him too.

When she makes his body tremble, she …

How To: Dealing with Melancholy | Cupidiffy

Melancholy is a temperament synonymous to desolation, sadness and sorrow. It can easily be said to be a pensive sadness with no obvious reason, therefore differentiating melancholy from depression, which is a mental response to external stress inducing factors. Melancholy comes from inside and the causes are inherent. The causes are most biological, ranging from chemical imbalances in the brain, to genetics. It has also been associated with bipolar disorder 1 & 2.

A melancholic person is most likely to find difficulties reacting to pleasant events. He/She may also experience unusually obvious peak in depression, with no logical reason. You should also look out for occasional thoughts of suicide as it's also a symptom of melancholy.
Although, as mentioned earlier melancholy is mostly caused by biological factors, the social treatment is quite effective at containing it. Having an active social life gives a reasonable head-start for the containment and can help combat the adver…

Using Negatives to make better Pictures (Negs) | Cupidiffy

If used correctly, negative comments can be very powerful in an advantageous manner. Negs are comments directed at comments, that appear nice enough on the surface, but mean spirited in their meaning.
For example, tell a girl she reminds you of your baby sister. We have all heard the saying before, “You’re like a brother to me.” We all know how much of a vibe killer the "brother" word is coming from a female you're attracted to. It's called the "brother zone". Turn the tables on her instead.

Telling the her she reminds you of your baby sister is essentially telling her that she is immature, you are not so into her, and she is a pain in your ass. It depends on how you come across when you say it. If you come across in a fun, joking matter, you are role playing. If you come across saying she reminds you of a sister, therefore you are not attracted to her, it is a neg.

My favorite neg is to tell the women…

Be A Lover (Appreciate Her) | Cupidiffy

For some reason many men are stingy with their approval. They feel giving it away makes them needy somehow. But your approval is like currency. If you never spend it then it is the same as not having any. Showing your appreciation is how you move your relationship with a woman from strangers to lovers. At each step you show a new level of appreciation.

A woman is turned on by your appreciation for her. She feels appreciated when you tell her you like that dress she wore specially for you. She becomes infatuated when you laugh at her funny dancing. She becomes excited when you find her smile incredibly sexy.

The key to appreciation is that it must appear genuine to her. READ: Genuine Interest Over Desperate Ones. An attractive woman can be unexpressive. Her uniqueness is locked inside. If you appreciate her when she feels she is not putting herself out there than she will devalue you for appreciating her for nothing. For her it takes a bit more. You make her put some effort into …

She's Flirting with You (check for these sign) | Cupidiffy

There are easy ways to know right away if a woman is flirting with you. Now, I do not believe in waiting for signs before I make the big move. When you consider approaching a woman the only thing you need to think is, "I am interested in her and want to know more". Once you get into a conversation with her, it can be difficult to spot her flirting. You can might want to know why I insist that if a woman is being too friendly towards you, she most probably not interested in you but I'll visit that on another article. Stay tuned! Seeing the above signs get away and get over this woman, with your self-esteem intact. To spot her flirting with you her are some signs you should be looking out for.
1. Body Language: When women attracted to someone, they tend to stumble over their words and fidget. We all get nervous. Look for where those feet are pointing, and notice the fixed gaze and hair caressing.

2. Conversation: When attracted to a man, women are often fascinated by anythi…

Genuine Interest Over Desperate Ones | Cupidiffy

No man would pick up a mannequin, not even because of the sleek curves it possesses. Plus the dates will be boring. But that is what an attractive woman thinks most men will settle for. She believes that all she has to do is show up and men will drool. READ: The "Hot Woman" Situation.
It's essential you portray yourself to be a desirable man who seems interested in the unique qualities of a woman and not generically interested in women (mere legs, lips and butts). An attractive woman is very good at figuring out which you care about. She is so obsessed with it that she has developed a habitual deceptive appearance to test you. She wants to know if you will settle for the window dressing or will you demand more.

Surprisingly, showing the proper type of interest is largely a timing issue.

When it comes to Pick-Up, you should be interested. But being too interested is sinful. Especially at the beginning of an interaction. It's okay if she is involved and putti…

Too Much Game = No Game | Cupidiffy

Too much game will only ruin your chances with women, just like too much of everything is considered bad. Yet often times men get carried away with the so-called "game", being so charming that they lose the woman's interest. Women love the thrill, the banter, the teasing, all of that. It's fun, but not when it's out of control. They need something substantial to hold on to or they'll move on.

Introducing yourself by teasing her, telling fascinating stories and your use of those sleek lines can only keep a woman interested for sometime time. It's sad that most men, in their bid to create connection with women, only turn out to entertain them. It's obvious she'll get bubbly and excited. But the amount of ingenuity portrayed by "too much game" coming from you, leaves her dying for you to actually want her, and at the end of the day no connection is achieved. And once you're separated from her, she probably forgets she ever met you. No i…

NEWS FLASH: She Thinks About Sex Too | Cupidiffy

It's obvious sometimes we perceive our female counterparts as invincible and void of urges. Meaning, we are alone when it comes to the "sex state of mind". But I put it to you that she's not invincible and has urges as much as we do. She has lustful fantasies, which she tends to be ashamed of due to the stereotype of the society. She secretly wants you to get down there with your mouth, use your fingers, and when necessary, penetrate her with your prick for a little while, and then get busy again with your mouth. But if she said that, she'll be said to be promiscuous. But tell me, what is promiscuity? Maybe all me are promiscuous then.

The sad truth remains that most men only think of themselves during sex. READ: Great sex or No sex. She might like it aggressive and energetic or soft and steady, but you always want to have it your way. Ever tried giving her a chance to take charge and do her thing? Sometimes she wants you to trigger sensations that come from pla…

Great Sex Or No Sex | Cupidiffy

Ever wondered why women went total nuts about the 2015 movie "50 Shades of Grey"? Some girl made me see it in 3 different occasions against my wish, just to see the almighty "Christian Grey" thrill. Wait, are we just talking about the movie, because if you never saw a female flicking through the pages of the "50 Shades of Grey" book, you might as well want to tell me about the planet you just arrived from. 50 Shades of Grey explored every woman's $£xual fantasy and left them whether in front of the screen or behind the pages with their libido pumping. Trust me, I totally get what the fuss was all about.
It was a movie/book of the £rotica literature genre, and had the entire female population mesmerized.

Bad news: Not every woman want to be blindfolded, chained up, and spanked.
However, I want you to notice how he (Christian Grey) didn't just jump into having sex with her (Ana). In fauct sex didn't come into the picture till later. Christian to…

5 Approach Hacks for Confident Body Language | Cupidiffy

This article presents you with top notch Hacks to command a strong body language. Though we've previously discussed about the importance of a strong and confident body language. READ: Body Language (The Importance in Approach)

1.  Exhibit confidence in approach:
Don't be timid and uncertain, or rather shove it deep inside you. It's a huge turn-off for women as they envision an ideal man be strong and confident. You can hide your timidity till you master the art of exhibiting confidence in approach, if you have to "fake it". A man who is self-assured will approach in a casual manner, without hesitancy, as if walking over to greet a friend.

Stand up straight to make the maximum out of your height (you can lose inches by slouching). Keep your head up, revealing the throat area a little (a good sign of confidence) and push your shoulders back (pushing your chest out a little). This is a good, confident posture.

2. Be friendly and warm:
No woman will feel comfortable …